3rdparty: upgrade pybind11 to v2.12.1.

3rdparty/pybind11/.github/CONTRIBUTING.md

@@ -135,7 +135,7 @@ The valid options are:
 * Use `-G` and the name of a generator to use something different. `cmake
   --help` lists the generators available.
       - On Unix, setting `CMAKE_GENERATER=Ninja` in your environment will give
-        you automatic mulithreading on all your CMake projects!
+        you automatic multithreading on all your CMake projects!
 * Open the `CMakeLists.txt` with QtCreator to generate for that IDE.
 * You can use `-DCMAKE_EXPORT_COMPILE_COMMANDS=ON` to generate the `.json` file
   that some tools expect.
@@ -235,8 +235,8 @@ directory inside your pybind11 git clone. Files will be modified in place,
 so you can use git to monitor the changes.
 
 ```bash
-docker run --rm -v $PWD:/mounted_pybind11 -it silkeh/clang:13
-apt-get update && apt-get install -y python3-dev python3-pytest
+docker run --rm -v $PWD:/mounted_pybind11 -it silkeh/clang:15-bullseye
+apt-get update && apt-get install -y git python3-dev python3-pytest
 cmake -S /mounted_pybind11/ -B build -DCMAKE_CXX_CLANG_TIDY="$(which clang-tidy);--use-color" -DDOWNLOAD_EIGEN=ON -DDOWNLOAD_CATCH=ON -DCMAKE_CXX_STANDARD=17
 cmake --build build -j 2
 ```

3rdparty/pybind11/.github/ISSUE_TEMPLATE/bug-report.yml

@@ -6,7 +6,8 @@ body:
   - type: markdown
     attributes:
       value: |
-        Maintainers will only make a best effort to triage PRs. Please do your best to make the issue as easy to act on as possible, and only open if clearly a problem with pybind11 (ask first if unsure).
+        Please do your best to make the issue as easy to act on as possible, and only submit here if there is clearly a problem with pybind11 (ask first if unsure). **Note that a reproducer in a PR is much more likely to get immediate attention.**
+
   - type: checkboxes
     id: steps
     attributes:
@@ -20,6 +21,13 @@ body:
         - label: Consider asking first in the [Gitter chat room](https://gitter.im/pybind/Lobby) or in a [Discussion](https:/pybind/pybind11/discussions/new).
           required: false
 
+  - type: input
+    id: version
+    attributes:
+      label: What version (or hash if on master) of pybind11 are you using?
+    validations:
+      required: true
+
   - type: textarea
     id: description
     attributes:
@@ -40,6 +48,14 @@ body:
         The code should be minimal, have no external dependencies, isolate the
         function(s) that cause breakage. Submit matched and complete C++ and
         Python snippets that can be easily compiled and run to diagnose the
-        issue. If possible, make a PR with a new, failing test to give us a
-        starting point to work on!
+        issue. — Note that a reproducer in a PR is much more likely to get
+        immediate attention: failing tests in the pybind11 CI are the best
+        starting point for working out fixes.
       render: text
+
+  - type: input
+    id: regression
+    attributes:
+      label: Is this a regression? Put the last known working version here if it is.
+      description: Put the last known working version here if this is a regression.
+      value: Not a regression

3rdparty/pybind11/.github/dependabot.yml

@@ -4,4 +4,12 @@ updates:
   - package-ecosystem: "github-actions"
     directory: "/"
     schedule:
-      interval: "daily"
+      interval: "weekly"
+    groups:
+      actions:
+        patterns:
+          - "*"
+    ignore:
+      - dependency-name: actions/checkout
+        versions:
+          - "<5"